Relationship Between One Individual and Another.

German poet Rainer Rilke wrote over a 100 years ago what was an almost prophetic vision of changes in the relationships between a man and a woman:

”...that man and woman, freed from all mistaken feelings and aversions, will seek each other not as opposites but as brother and sister, as neighbors, and will unite as human beings, in order to bear in common, simply, earnestly, and patiently, the heavy sex that has been laid upon them...”

He had envisioned that in the future, the traditional roles between man and women in a relationship would no longer follow the patterns of possession and obedience or control and competition. His vision described a world in which there would be room and freedom for growth as individuals, as beings, and in which each partner would be the means of releasing the other.

"...this advance will transform the love experience, which is now filled with error,will change it from the ground up, and reshape it into a relationship that is meant to be between one human being and another, no longer one that flows man to woman. And this more human love (which fulfill itself with infinite consideration and gentleness, and kindness and clarity in binding and releasing) will resemble what we are now preparing painfully and with great struggle: the love that consists in this: the two solitudes protect and border and great each other..."

Rilke had a great insight of the future however this relationship between one human being and another, this love between two solitudes idea is not something that comes easily. It has to be taken care as a delicate seed, it has to be cherish and watered and protected to grow strong roots, to flower and give its fruits.

This encounter of souls in the cosmic world is not a fiction and it does happens, however it requires man and woman to mature and understand the steps that are necessary before, during and most importantly after this magic encounter happens.

The whole process has to do with our own personal growth and understanding of human nature and our own nature. It has more to do with an open channel for communication and seeing the other one as they are - just humans trying to do it right thing - rather than just a random act of  luck and the one who will be the maker of our happiness.

Prior to go on looking for the 'other half' man and woman must learn how to stand up for themselves, to be independent, to have a strong character, and above all to be happy in their own way.

We have every single tool necessary within ourselves. We were made complete and ultimately perfect to have all the required apparatus needed to develop as beings right inside ourselves.  It,however requires courage and discipline to reach within and find the answers inside oneself with no dependency on someone else's.

N. Cardoso