What is this all about?

"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. " Rainer Maria Rilke

The idea of writing about relationships has been brewing in my mind for as long as I can remember. After observing relationships of all kinds around me, living a number of them myself, listening to family, friends and even strangers blowing up steam on problems and, thank Heavens, sharing happiness and successes on their relationships, has inspired me to finally do something about it....and this is how this 'journey' started.

Being a single person myself for a long time , having always been on the pursuit of the alluring 'Secret' of the 'perfect relationship' and the understanding of the human soul, its traits and its reasons, this topic has always been a personal passion.

Many of these people would come to me and talk about issues they were experiencing in their relationships. The people I talk here are people who have strong feelings for each other yet they suffer and struggle to keep these, so important, relationships alive, honest and healthy.

Observing unhappy, as well as happy and successful couples, it is surprising to notice that regardless of how much we desire to have a relationship that, we believe, will make us better and happier than we are by ourselves, the bigger majority of us lack the basic requirements that will lead us to a thriving relationship.

The realization that so little is actually needed in order to create and preserve a successful relationship is a shocking discovery. Even more so than to realize that the lack of those, same little things, condemns, this so greatly desired encounter, into a disaster.

How to find the balance? How to level the scale of relationship success where it does not tilt one way or another?

This is a difficult dilemma and we all, in one way or another, try to find the 'Happy End' we have always dreamt of.

Maybe with a collective mind, maybe working together, we can finally understand and be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

It is not my intention to lecture anybody - If I knew 'The Secret', I would be on a rewarding, fulfilling relationship myself instead of peaking from the outside in, into other people experiences', trying to learn the secret myself.

I would like this search, research, sharing of ideas and thoughts to be light and, if possible, to enlighten all of us, who are in this quest.

We will talk about many things that are pretty much common sense, but when bit by the bug of love we, many times, just don't think, we die upon arrival, even it takes us much longer to realize that. We forget the simple steps and end up making this 'relationship' thing much more complicated than it's cracked up to be.

So brace yourself.  I truly hope that you enjoy the journey.

N. Cardoso